"In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you."

 

It is the most important and necessary ingredient of a happy, fulfilled life: quality relationships. The rest are effects. "None of us can go through this life alone from beginning to end. We all need relationships - family, friendship, couple, professional partnerships, etc. But real relationships, not a simulacrum of relationship. Because, for example, you can see people around who say they are in a relationship, but in fact they are not really in a relationship, they do not have a real heart-to-heart connection. The simple fact that two people live together does not mean that they have a relationship in the true sense of the word. The simple fact that a man sits/sleeps next to you does not mean that he will be there for you when you need him most. We are often not honest with ourselves about some situations, preferring to lie to ourselves to maintain a "relationship" (which is actually not really a relationship). We lie to ourselves because we have unhealed trauma, because we fear loneliness, because the truth (that we know, deep inside) is so painful that we feel we couldn't face it if- we recognize it "officially". The problem is that the lie we live in these so-called "relationships" brings with it a toxicity that affects us and that adds to the toxicity of previous unhealed traumas. We cannot heal our inner traumas until we are willing to be honest with ourselves, until we accept the painful truths of our lives."💞🧚♂💞🧚