People grow when they are loved well. If you want to help someone heal, love them without an agenda.

Grandma said, "There is only perfection where judgement is absent. Those we truly love we come to love entirely not despite their flaws and failings, but with them. Even a golden tree is not without blemish. But a speck on a golden leaf is easily overlooked!"

“In Britain, a cup of tea is the answer to every problem.
Fallen off your bicycle? Nice cup of tea.
Your house has been destroyed by a meteorite? Nice cup of tea and a biscuit.
Your entire family has been eaten by a Tyrannosaurus Rex that has travelled through a space/time portal? Nice cup of tea and a piece of cake. Possibly a savoury option would be welcome here too, for example a Scotch egg or a sausage roll.”
― David Walliams